Complete

I’ve had so many failed relationships throughout my life that sometimes, just sometimes it takes a toll on me. Why did they fail? Why with me? Am I the problem? Am I too stubborn? Unbendable? Am I that difficult to deal with? These were some questions that cluttered my mind and they still do that sometimes. Except, this time I know just the trick to not let them get to me, and I present to you, the theory of completeness.

Ever since we have got a mind of our own to think with, one of the most common phrases that we had heard people say about love, friendships, and relationships in general is: they complete me, he completes me, my friends complete me, blah blah blah. Honestly, I used to believe it was this way too unless one day I realized it wasn’t. Completing someone is a myth and one of the most dangerous and heartbreaking myths so far. It has ruined lives, and relationships and led things to end that were otherwise good to go. The fact that we expect someone to come into our lives and complete us is a proof that we believe that we, in ourselves, are not complete and you can spend thousands on therapy and watch motivational videos and do all sorts of yoga and mind exercises but nothing will work unless you get that one thing straight. Self-Worth. Accept yourself for what you are, hype yourself up, and DO NOT let the world trick you into believing that there is someone out there, yet to come into your life, to complete you. You complete yourself. There is no one in the world who can love you the way you love yourself and that is the reason so many relationships fail. People expect their partners to love them unconditionally and when they realize that isn’t a possibility they move on thinking that they might not be the one. Whereas the right approach is to know that there is only one person in the world who can, in fact, give you that unconditional love and that is, drumroll please, you. Come on, say it with me. I complete myself. I always did, I was just too caught up to see that. I love myself and forever will. I am complete in myself and looking for people who are complete in themselves so that they do not come falling into me for that completeness. I feel it. I know it. I am complete. Welcome to the new age.